Grief Support and Education for Our Community Since 1976
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Upcoming Events

Grief Group for Men
to start this Fall


Saturday, October 4, 11AM

The Kara Experience
Tuesday, October 7
12noon-1PM

Kara Volunteer Training
Fall 2008

Kara Fall Conference
November 14
Register Now!


What's New

Caregiver Support
and Resources

Photos from 2008
Camp Erin

Camp Erin 2008 Video

Santa Clara Weekly article:
Kara Offers Grief Support Around the Bay Area

Spring 2008 Newsletter

New Book - The Grieving Garden: Living with the Death of a Child


Special Features

Kara Videos:
1. 3 Clients Talk About Their Kara Experience - PC, Mac
2. Overview of Kara's Services -
PC, Mac

Search Grief Websites

An Intimate Gathering: Living with Cancer (Audio)

KZSU Radio Interview with Jim Bronson (Audio)

Kara Book Reviews

Kara Candlelight Service: Our Town - Remembering Loved Ones
Palo Alto Weekly

The Journey Through Grief: The Mourner's Six "Reconciliation Needs"


Kara Recognition

Santa Clara County Psychological Association Award for Outstanding Contribution by a Community Agency
In recognition for Kara's dedication to supporting grieving families and educating the community.

Tall Tree Tribute for Outstanding Organization
Sponsored by: Palo Alto Chamber of Commerce and Palo Alto Weekly

Change and loss are natural in the cycle of life. We experience grief and emotional distress with any significant loss. Support from those who have experience in dealing with personal loss can help ease the pain and promote healing. Kara provides a safe place for those who are grieving or anticipating their own death to express and normalize their feelings.

Kara is a nonprofit organization serving the San Francisco Bay Area since 1976. Our services are provided primarily by volunteers who have experience in healing from personal loss. They are trained to accompany others on their journey through a life-threatening illness and/or bereavement. There is no charge for Kara's services. We are supported primarily by tax-deductible donations from individuals, corporations and foundations.

To request any of Kara's services below,
please call (650-321-5272) or use this
Contact Form.


Individual Peer Counseling

Individual peer counseling for adults who are anticipating or grieving the death of a loved one, or anticipating their own death. Trained volunteer peer counselors provide one-to-one emotional support. An initial interview is scheduled to assess the client's need and determine appropriate service.

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Support Groups

Ongoing (twice-monthly) grief support groups for children, teenagers and adults who have experienced the death of a loved one. Group participants share their experience and learn from the experience of others. An initial interview is scheduled to assess the client's need and determine appropriate service.

Spouse/partner loss groups for:

  • parents
  • seniors

Parent/caregiver loss groups for:

  • teens
  • children

Child loss groups for:

  • parents whose adult child died
  • parents whose child under 18 died
  • children whose sibling or friend has died
  • teens whose sibling or friend has died

Survivors of another's suicide groups for:

  • adults
  • parents
  • children
  • teens

Grief Group for Men who have recently had a significant person in their life die.

Drop-in groups: 2nd and 4th Tuesdays of the month (1-2:30p) and 1st and 3rd Wednesdays of the month (7p-8:30p), at Kara's office. The drop-in groups are for adults who are grieving any type of death of someone in their lives (i.e., mixed loss groups). No appointment or interview is needed.

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Community Outreach & Education

  • On-site services: to assist schools, organizations and corporations before or after the death of someone within their community. Experienced facilitators help people process their reactions to the death and find ways to process their grief.

  • Programs on death and grief: tailored to meet the specific needs of a school, organization or business.

  • Annual Holiday Candlelight Service of Remembrance: An interfaith service where members of the community remember family and friends who have died. The service takes place on the first Thursday in December.

  • Annual grief conference: A one-day conference featuring speakers who are authorities on death and grief. Co-sponsored with the Palo Alto VA Hospice Care Center.

More . . .

Referral Services

  • Resources for individuals, families and caregivers needing help after a death

  • Referral information for professionals and individuals seeking information on grief support services, both local and out of the area

  • Referral Guidelines for refering clients to Kara

Contact Us

457 Kingsley Ave
Palo Alto, CA 94301
650-321-5272

Office hours are M-F, 9AM to 4PM Pacific time.
Here is a map to our office.

 

Kara is the Gothic root of the word "care."
It means to reach out, to care, to lament, to grieve with.

 

Kara Services

Individual peer counseling for adults

Support groups for children, teenagers and adults

Community outreach & education

Referrals

The one who can be present with us in our hours of grief, who can tolerate not knowing, and face with us the reality of our vulnerability, that is the one who gives us our best caring.
(From Out of Solitude, by Henry Nouwen)



Our Mission

Kara is a center offering compassionate peer support and education to individuals, families and organizations coping with death and dying. Our mission is to empower children, teens and adults to find their way through grief so that they can rebuild their lives with renewed hope and meaning.

How to Help Someone
Suffering from Loss

DO let your genuine concern and caring show.

DO be available... to listen or to help with whatever else seems needed at the time.

DO say you are sorry about what happened and about their pain.

DO allow them to express as much unhappiness as they are feeling at the moment and are willing to share.

DO encourage them to be patient with themselves, not to expect too much of themselves and not to impose any “shoulds” on themselves.

DO allow them to talk about their loss as much and as often as they want to.

DO talk about the special, endearing qualities of the person they've lost.

DO remember they continue to need your caring and support after the first few weeks or months have passed.

DON'T let your own sense of helplessness keep you from reaching out.

DON'T avoid them because you are uncomfortable (being avoided by friends adds pain to an already painful experience.)

DON'T say that you "know how they feel". (Unless you've experienced their loss yourself you probably don't know how they feel.)

DON'T say "you ought to be feeling better by now" or anything else that implies a judgment about their feelings.

DON'T tell them what they should feel or do.

DON'T change the subject when they mention their loss or their loved one.

DON'T avoid mentioning their loss out of fear of reminding them of their pain (You can be sure they haven't forgotten it.

DON'T try to find something positive (e.g. a moral lesson, closer family ties, etc.) about the loss.

DON'T point out “at least they have their other …”

DON'T say they “can always have another ...”

DON'T suggest that they “should be grateful for their so-and-so...”

DON'T make any comments which in any way suggest that their loss was their fault (there will be enough feelings of doubt and guilt without any help from their friends).

How you can
support Kara

Kara depends on volunteers and donations. Please call us if you wish to volunteer your time. To provide financial support, click HERE to learn about options for making donations or click on the button below to make an online donation.

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